THE KEY TO FEELING HAPPY IS........

IS A HAPPY LIFE AN ILLUSION (part 2)

(You can read Part 1 here)

“The key to feeling happy is embracing feeling unhappy”.

I heard this phrase from my coach, Alyssa Nobriga.

I got so intrigued that I wanted to learn more.

Yes, I enrolled in her one-year program called the Coaching Mastery.

This program teaches some amazing tools that lead to a deep transformation from inside out.

Yes, my life is not the same!!!!! I am also blessed to share this work with my clients!!! I love witnessing their

transformation as they navigate through the contrasts of life just like the ocean navigates through the waves.

Life is like the ocean waves

They are constantly moving

They are constantly responding and adjusting to the weather condition

• Wind
• Rain
• Cold
• Warm
• Thunder storm

And…. there is that magical moment

• The moment of floating
• The moment of what is
• The moment of presence
• The moment of flowing of one wave into the next
• The moment of no resistance

It is the moment to FEEL the moment!

• Not to change it
• Not to fix it
• Not to analyze it
• Not to avoid it

All of these coping behaviors are the signs of resistance.

• Have you tried to resist the flow of the ocean waves?

• What happens?

• Do you get more stuck?

What is your pattern?

How do you behave when you feel upset, sad, angry, mad because things (waves)

are not going according to your “happy” life image?

Do you try to

• Work harder
• Fix more
• Get stuck in analysis paralysis
• Avoid
• Procrastinate
• Judge yourself/others

If you experience these patterns, it is a great indication that you are resisting the ocean waves - you are trying very hard to “change” or “fix” or “stop” or judge a flow of what is (a flow of the ocean waves).

YOU ARE SCARED TO FEEL!

You are avoiding to FEEL what is when it is less than “happy”.

This pattern creates more resistance. Have you tried to resist the ocean waves? You can only add more resistance.

This article explains a 90sec rule of feeling the emotion and why it is so important.

You cannot think about your feelings. You can only FEEL your feelings. According to neuroscientists,It takes 90 seconds to feel and be present with your emotions to experience a moment of “floating” or accepting and allowing. As you already know from the numerous research, suppressed emotions lead to dis-ease. The ocean waves have a harmonious flow because they never resist the flow.

Resistance keeps you stuck! The more you resist, the more you get stuck!

Allowing is freeing! It only takes 90 seconds!

Yes, you are not the ocean waves.

You are a human being who FEELS.

FEELING all the emotions without JUDGING them is a very empowering experience.

It is liberating!

It is accepting therefore freeing.

It is where your personal power lies!

What does it have to do with a “happy” life?

“The key to feeling happy is to embrace feeling unhappy!”

There is wisdom in all of life = all the emotions.

Living life fully is holding space for feeling all the emotions.

After all, a “happy” life consists of contrasts just like our emotions.

There is nothing more contrasting than witnessing someone towards her/his “end” of life.

My Mom is the greatest teacher for my experiencing life “fully” and my “becoming” an “extraordinary” human who is learning to hold space for feeling all the emotions without judging my human experience. It is vulnerable and empowering!

Just like a ship in the ocean, it is learning to NAVIGATE (not to fix) through all the emotions (waves), I learn to navigate.

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