IS YOUR SELF-TALK SERVING YOU?

I AM WHO I SAY I AM!

On a scale of 1 to 10, how true is this for you now:

I can accept myself without complaint.

Lately I would say I am trending at about a 7 or an 8.

How about you?

When I first decided to notice my self-talk, I was feeling really down on myself and probably trending around a 2 or 3.

I was talking a lot of trash about myself in my head!

Amanda and I shared about how to notice your self-talk last week here in the first episode of our podcast.

We continued feeling better through self-talk this week with a concept called “I am” statements.

This concept is as simple as telling yourself you will notice when you say:

“I am…”

Maybe you’ll hear (in your head or even out loud):

I am tired

I am fat

I am never going to figure this out

I am a perfectionist

I am so stupid!

I am ugly!

Pause and Notice your “I am” statements!

What is your list?

Do you notice how it does NOT feel good to read that list (much less think those thoughts)?

Those statements feel so bad when you say or think or read them because they are not true.

What is true?

The truth is that you just are.

It’s that simple.

You are and that’s enough.

Just being here means you are good enough.

BUT, as we grow up from a perfect little baby who can do no wrong, our human journey and the

other humans along the way with us (thanks mom) tend to confuse us into thinking that we are not good enough just as is.

Instead we begin thinking that we are how we feel or we are how we act or we are what we do or don’t accomplish or earn or own or give.

Noticing your” I am___” statements lets you begin to undo all the years of confusing who you are (an inherently worthy being) with what you think, what you feel, what you do and what you accomplish or earn or own.

When you notice your I am statements, you are able to separate your toxic I am statements into statements that feel a lot better (because they are much more true!).

For example, try this out:

Notice an “I am ____” statement and turn it into an “I am good enough AND ____ “ statement like this:

You notice thinking: “I am screwing this up!”

You stop and say

“I am good enough AND I feel frustrated”

Or

"I am good enough AND my actions here aren’t quite what I want them to be yet”

Here are a few more examples of taking the sting out of your I am statements so you can begin to feel better:

I am good enough and I feel tired

I am good enough and I feel fat

I am good enough and I sometimes behave in perfectionist ways

Let your self-talk help you instead of hurt you this week and we can’t wait to podcast talk with you next week!

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