ARE YOU REALLY IN CONTROL?

Are these statements reflecting you:
Or your relationship to control?

“I cannot let go of…. because things will fall apart.”

“If I do not do things myself, nothing will happen.”

“I do not want people to see my …..(fill in the blank).”

“If I do not do it, my spouse will not volunteer.”

“I come from a weekend trip and my house is a mess.”

Things have to be a certain way for me to be OK.

What do all these statements have in common?

CONTROL

Do you take pride in being in control?

(Be honest)

Do you have a tendency for perfectionism?
(perfectionism is a form of control)

I used to admire successful women whom
I perceived “they had their lives together”.
To me, they looked “perfect”.

My inner voice used to whisper:

“If I could only BE like them and DO as much
as they do, I would feel successful, powerful
and meaningful.”

If you are that woman, I feel you!

Yes, I was that woman!

I identified myself as “strong and independent

and I could do hard things.”

Until I felt burnt out, stressed and “out of breath”

to chase bigger, better and more but never
feeling satisfied or content.

I could no longer hide what was underneath that
false sense of CONTROL.

There was a part of me that was afraid
to fail and to be seen, rejected, judged and loved.

that part of me felt unsafe in the world and
was trying to cover up her profound sense of
powerlessness.

Underneath that CONTROL, there was

FEAR!

FEAR that stems from a deeper wound inside that
resides in our subconscious mind and
reminds us of our deeply ingrained belief that

• We are unworthy
• We are not good enough unless we
  are seen as “being in control” of our
  outcomes and accepted by the outside world

PAUSE.

Take a moment to connect to your body
and feel your “secret” anxiety - a sense of
powerlessness that you feel you need to hide
from the world because the rest of the world
perceives you as a “woman who keeps her life in control”.

Underneath control, there is often a sense of feeling small
and helpless in the world, a “secret” anxiety around:

“I AM NOT ______(insert):

Strong enough

Powerful enough

Competent enough

Smart enough
Good enough

Successful enough

So I need to control things as this is the only

way to deal with life.

I SEE YOU!

I FEEL YOU!

I KNOW YOU!

YOU DO NEED TO HIDE ANYMORE!

I like to remind my clients often that:

“All of you is WELCOME!”

My current coaching clients are a reflection of
my past version of myself.

It is my honor and my contribution to the world

to share my journey, knowledge and skills with

the highly accomplished women who are
looking successful and “powerful” on the outside

but struggling with the “secret” anxiety and feeling

disconnected from the inside.

Can you relate?

Awareness is the first step to

RECLAIMING YOUR POWER!

ARE YOU ALLOWING AWARENESS IN?

I am proud of you!

However, you may feel a sense of guilt and shame.
It is totally normal.

It is a sign of your connecting with what’s hurting
inside of you.

Your tears are also welcome!

As you slow down and stop your chase, you realize
that there is nothing outside of you that
would help you “heal” your deep inner wound of

unworthiness and “not good enough” because
the wound belongs to your inner child within you.

The journey to guide you home to yourself is

not outside of you but

inside of you:

“As Within, So Without”.

Yes, you do not have to change your spouse,

You do not have to make x amount of money,

You do not have to find another job,

You do not have to move to another city

You do not have to “hide” your anger and discontent

To feel “in control”.

The true control is not outside of you!

The true control is returning to who you were

Before the world “told” you who you SHOULD BE!

The true control is reclaiming your power within

And learning to accept and love all parts of yourself
Not because you “have to” but because
it is the only way to

REIGNITE YOUR SPARK

And

RESTORE YOUR LOVE WITHIN

regardless your circumstances

When you connect with your inner whisper
“I am not good enough”,

when you lean into your fear and feel your

“ONLY LOVE IS REAL”!

It took me some time to understand this statement.

First, my scared part questioned:

Is my fear not real?

It is real.

But if you are willing to explore it with curiosity,

you will see that underneath that fear is a

part of you that is “screaming” for your love

and acceptance.

It is up to you to allow that part(s) of you to be

• Seen
• Heard
• Loved
• Accepted
• Received
• integrated

So that you feel WHOLE because that is the only

way you can RECLAIM YOUR POWER BACK.

You are only as powerful as the sum of all your parts.

All of you is invited on a journey of:

RECLAIMING YOUR POWER

REIGNITING YOUR SPARK

RESTORING YOUR LOVE WITHIN

Depak Chopra defines healing is

Becoming WHOLE!

What parts of your life are you trying

to “control”? What wounds are they
reflecting within you? Do you want these
parts of your life to change?

Go within. Heal within.

Do you want to feel more

• Peace
• Happiness
• Joy
• Freedom
• Fulfillment
• Love

In your relationships and your life?

Go within.

Ready to commit to
Reclaiming Your True Power

and

Embarking on the journey of self-discovery,

self-love, self-trust, self-acceptance so that

you feel empowered to show up in life as

Your Uniquely You regardless of your outcomes?

Let's connect!

Schedule your Connection Call with me

HERE.

Love,

Coach Jewels